"A textured, sharply written memoir about coming of age in the fourth decade of one's life and embracing one's truest self in a world that demands gender fit in neat boxes. From the outside, Oliver Radclyffe spent four decades living an immensely privileged, beautifully composed life. As the daughter of two well-to-do British parents and the wife of a successful man from an equally privileged family, Oliver played the parts expected of him. He checked off every box-marriage, children (four), a white-picket fence surrounding a stately home in Connecticut, and a golden retriever. But beneath the shiny veneer, Oliver was desperately trying to stay afloat as he struggled to maintain a facade of normalcy. And between his hair falling out and incapacitating mood swings, Oliver realized the life of a trapped housewife was not one he was ever meant to live. Embarking on a fraught, challenging journey of self-discovery, Oliver navigates the end to the beautiful lie of his previous life-a life he could not continue if he wanted to survive. The story of a flawed, fascinating, gorgeously queer man, Frighten the Horses introduces Oliver Radclyffe as a witty, arresting, and unforgettable voice"-- Provided by publisher.